Should we get premarital counseling?

Maybe you've been in a relationship with your fiancé for several years, and you're unsure if premarital counseling is worth the time and investment. I believe it is worth its weight in gold- and here are a couple reasons why:

  1. You will learn so much about yourself- especially if you've never worked with a counselor. You'll have the opportunity to consider your personality, your habits, your values- plus, you will gain a greater understanding of how your parents/family influence how you are in a relationship.
  2. This is a great time to get on the same page about all those major life decisions. How do you plan to manage family finances? Are you either or both of you bringing debt (hello, student loans!) to the table? Do you want children, and have you thought about how you would like to raise them? Will faith or spirituality be a part of your marriage and family?
  3. You're probably spending lots of time planning your wedding- are you also spending a good portion of your time focusing on your relationship? In premarital counseling, you are guaranteed a solid chunk of time specifically  you, your fiancé, and your upcoming marriage. It would be hard to overstate the value in doing this.
“The real act of marriage takes place in the heart, not in the ballroom or church or synagogue. It’s a choice you make– not just on your wedding day, but over and over again– and that choice is reflected in the way you treat your husband or wife.”
— Barbara de Angelis