Self-care does NOT mean treat yo'self!

A video about millennial self-care circulated the internet about a year ago. It was a good-natured jab at the millennial generation's supposed "obsession" with self-care, and how our generation tends to think about self-care in terms of buying fabulous things and living a life of luxury. Example: I'm going to buy these new Louboutin pumps because, self-care! 

Wanting and having nice things isn't the issue. It doesn't even have to be about high-end products or experiences. If you get your nails done weekly or get coffee a couple times each week and consider that self-care, that's great. But when it stops there, it becomes a lesser version of what self-care can really be. There is so much more to the concept of taking good care of yourself. I believe we do ourselves a great disservice when we consider the "treat yo'self" mentality as the end-all-be-all of self-care.

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So, this begs the question- what can we do in addition to our typical self-care? Here are a few ideas:

  • Start saying "no" to things that don't align with your goals or values
  • Ask for what you need at work- is it more autonomy, more responsibility more pay, more vacation?
  • Disconnect from social media for a weekend (or a month, if you dare)
  • Identify toxic relationships and make necessary changes
  • Eat foods that energize you and steer clear of foods that make you feel lethargic

Anxious thinking (you know the type- overthinking, "what if...", lots of shoulds) make it hard to think clearly enough to create a solid self-care plan. I know how feels to have your mind buzzing like a bee, unable to concentrate- even when what you're trying to focus on is taking care of yourself!

I work with women every day who have decided to take steps toward a more calm, peaceful life. If you want in, schedule your first appointment. We can work together to create the life you want.